I am not sure why Calafia came as the response to a dating query either, though fire does represent passion, so the fire part makes sense.
Though you asked for one clarification card, I did a reading, in part because I want to try some of the readings Ellen designed for this deck, and you are the first person to add a tip and ask for this deck. But also because I feel that a more complete clarification is a good idea here.
So, first, I selected Contact for the card that symbolizes your question. Another possibility would have been Love, but I found Contact first, and went with it. You are evaluating whether there is a chance of a stronger bond with this person. Is there some hesitation, some flinching away, the beginnings of a real connection, or only a superficial touch? There is nothing wrong with casual dating, of course, but I get the sense that you want to find more, either with this person or someone else, and that is at least part of why you are asking. (This is a card where there is updated artwork, so that it will show a lovely glowing night sky behind the two unicorns.)
The second card, New Unicorn, represents your past, the path that brought you to this point and perhaps a direct influence on what's happening now. Interestingly, this is another card where the artwork has been improved. Ellen also renamed the aspects after reflection and discussion with her beta-readers. I mention this in part because I think the revised aspect names are the ones more likely to shed light on a dating situation. The revised aspects are Act: Open / React: Close / Reflect: Safety / Shine: Trust. The aspects I think are most pertinent based on how I drew the card are Safety and Close. Are you worried about your or your family's safety? Do you need more information about this person to feel trust? Does this person's behavior remind you of someone who betrayed your trust? Or are there trust issues in your past that are affecting your openness to this new potential relationship? Do you need to open up more to start to create a deeper connection with this person? (Though this card is in your past, I also wonder, might they be unsure they can trust you?)
The third card, Dawn, represents what's blocking you. Based on how I drew the card, I'm looking mostly at the aspects Wait and Limits. This supports a possibility that you being so busy and having so little time is a significant factor here. But maybe it's just you taking a pause to consider what you might be leaping into. It makes sense before embarking on a journey to look ahead and consider whether you have the resources, physical, emotional, mental, even financial, to embark on this journey. But ask yourself, is it fear holding you back or common sense? Another thing to consider is whether your own healthy limits are in play--it's important to respect those--or whether there are some old habits or learned constraints which are holding you back. What does your higher self say? Are some of these things that are keeping you so busy habits that no longer serve you well? I don't know the answer to those questions, they are for you to consider.
The fourth card, Celestial, represents the Guidance you seek. It landed firmly in the Reflect aspect, which calls on you to reflect on your life as it is and as you would like it to be. For this card, the Reflect aspect is titled Invention. Remember that while necessity is the mother of invention, creativity is its father. What does your world need that it is lacking? What would make your life and others even better? You get to (re)invent yourself or your life, and I suspect you have to do that if you want to pursue a romantic relationship, whether it be this one or a different one. It might not even need to be a big change.
I laid out the cards on the artwork layout Ellen provided. It looks like the unicorn in the artwork, as well as the dragon, winged fox, mouse, and squirrels are all looking to see what you will choose to invent. That suggests to me that your choices here matter, nothing is decided yet.
Re: Calafia, Maiden of Flames, reversed
I am not sure why Calafia came as the response to a dating query either, though fire does represent passion, so the fire part makes sense.
Though you asked for one clarification card, I did a reading, in part because I want to try some of the readings Ellen designed for this deck, and you are the first person to add a tip and ask for this deck. But also because I feel that a more complete clarification is a good idea here.
So, first, I selected Contact for the card that symbolizes your question. Another possibility would have been Love, but I found Contact first, and went with it. You are evaluating whether there is a chance of a stronger bond with this person. Is there some hesitation, some flinching away, the beginnings of a real connection, or only a superficial touch? There is nothing wrong with casual dating, of course, but I get the sense that you want to find more, either with this person or someone else, and that is at least part of why you are asking. (This is a card where there is updated artwork, so that it will show a lovely glowing night sky behind the two unicorns.)
The second card, New Unicorn, represents your past, the path that brought you to this point and perhaps a direct influence on what's happening now. Interestingly, this is another card where the artwork has been improved. Ellen also renamed the aspects after reflection and discussion with her beta-readers. I mention this in part because I think the revised aspect names are the ones more likely to shed light on a dating situation. The revised aspects are Act: Open / React: Close / Reflect: Safety / Shine: Trust. The aspects I think are most pertinent based on how I drew the card are Safety and Close. Are you worried about your or your family's safety? Do you need more information about this person to feel trust? Does this person's behavior remind you of someone who betrayed your trust? Or are there trust issues in your past that are affecting your openness to this new potential relationship? Do you need to open up more to start to create a deeper connection with this person? (Though this card is in your past, I also wonder, might they be unsure they can trust you?)
The third card, Dawn, represents what's blocking you. Based on how I drew the card, I'm looking mostly at the aspects Wait and Limits. This supports a possibility that you being so busy and having so little time is a significant factor here. But maybe it's just you taking a pause to consider what you might be leaping into. It makes sense before embarking on a journey to look ahead and consider whether you have the resources, physical, emotional, mental, even financial, to embark on this journey. But ask yourself, is it fear holding you back or common sense? Another thing to consider is whether your own healthy limits are in play--it's important to respect those--or whether there are some old habits or learned constraints which are holding you back. What does your higher self say? Are some of these things that are keeping you so busy habits that no longer serve you well? I don't know the answer to those questions, they are for you to consider.
The fourth card, Celestial, represents the Guidance you seek. It landed firmly in the Reflect aspect, which calls on you to reflect on your life as it is and as you would like it to be. For this card, the Reflect aspect is titled Invention. Remember that while necessity is the mother of invention, creativity is its father. What does your world need that it is lacking? What would make your life and others even better? You get to (re)invent yourself or your life, and I suspect you have to do that if you want to pursue a romantic relationship, whether it be this one or a different one. It might not even need to be a big change.
I laid out the cards on the artwork layout Ellen provided. It looks like the unicorn in the artwork, as well as the dragon, winged fox, mouse, and squirrels are all looking to see what you will choose to invent. That suggests to me that your choices here matter, nothing is decided yet.
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